NOTICE: This will be my last post for the month. I’m taking a brief blog break in June to devote more time to writing.
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Self-sabatoge is the result of deep-rooted thinking patterns that have been left unchecked. Often it means standing in our own way because deep down we don’t believe we deserve the good things in life.
In last month’s ISWG post, I discussed the importance of focusing on the aspects of your writing journey you can control. Recognizing negative patterns in both your thinking and your actions is the first step in taking charge—your first steps toward freedom. Let’s test your self-sabotage tendencies, shall we? Have you ever:
- Missed a deadline?
- Held back out of fear or rejection?
- Tried to get by with a minimal effort?
- Quit something just as you were beginning to succeed?
- Found yourself trapped in a “temporary situation” that went on and on?
- Blamed someone else or “bad luck” when you failed?
- Felt uneasy about what you’re accomplishing in your life?
Each of these behaviors is emblematic of self-sabotage. Often it’s fear of change that brings out our inner saboteur. The scariest times may be when things are going great—so great that were outside our comfort zone. Don’t listen to that inner voice telling you to stay scared. Work through the discomfort, and soon that success will feel normal. How can you counteract Self-Sabotage?
- Don’t focus on what’s not working.
- Don’t let your fears trap you.
- Watch the self-criticism: be careful how you talk to yourself because someone is listening.
- Learn from your failures but remember to take pride in your accomplishments. You finished a chapter, wrote a query, submitted a short story? Well done, you!
- Never forget: you ARE entitled, and you ARE worthy. Be good to yourself.
- Understand your purpose. What do you want to contribute to the world? A kick-ass book, you say? Sounds awesome! Give the world a book. In fact, give back in every possible way you can. The more you give, the more your purpose will resonate. Giving is the ideal way to feed and care for your self-worth.
- Most important: Don’t waste your time comparing yourself to others. Your writer’s journey is not a competition. It’s about you and no one else.
Don’t stand in your own way.
Have a great June, y’all. Hope to see you back here on July 2!